by Denise Pass | Nov 15, 2025
Relationships don’t just impact our emotions—they touch the deepest places of identity, belonging, and worth. So when a relationship sours, shame often slips in quietly, whispering lies about who we are and why things fell apart. Shame says: “You failed.” “You weren’t...
by Denise Pass | Nov 9, 2025
There’s a particular sting that comes when someone grumbles about you. Not just about the weather, or traffic, or the price of coffee—but when the complaint has your name attached to it. Even if it’s whispered behind closed doors, word finds its way to you, and...
by Denise Pass | Nov 1, 2025
“You have big legs.” Best compliment ever. Thanks so much. So I responded in like manner. “So do you.” I’m not proud of that moment, lol. But I have spent most of my life learning how to process such comments even when I was 105 pounds,...
by Denise Pass | Mar 25, 2025
While shame may have been something the culture has cast upon us, we ultimately get to decide shame’s presence in our lives. And it begins in our minds. A central aspect of shame is focusing on self and then secondarily a focus on our lack. We are not enough; we...
by Denise Pass | Feb 17, 2025
Ever been the last one picked on a team? That’s this girl here. The one others gossip about? Bingo. The one who was threatened to be beaten up time and again when I was growing up? Yep. Me again. Maybe you can relate? It used to bother me A LOT. Too much,...
